UNSUNG EXTRAORDINARY HEROES - THE FEAR FACTOR and OUR NAKED TRUTH

Ironically, this month as we know asserts itself as the spook-able fall season where we deliberately go out of our way to get scared, feel the fear for a thrill.  Amidst the ghouls, goblins, ghosts, the witching hour of truth is upon us.  In retrospect, my first sentence speaks volumes about life and its impossibilities that we face fearfully every day and yet in the month of October we deliberately find courage to go to that haunted mansion, spook house even though we are scared out of our wits.  In contrast, where does that courage to face that fear come from.

Why would we, again deliberately with passion, forethought and conviction go our of our way to experience a scare and yet those day to day moments where fear is present every moment do we not summon the same sense of courage.

Do we embrace the fear factor out of peer pressure. not wanting the opinion or vision of ourselves to be diminished in front of many.  It seems as though for some it is all of the above.  Do those reasons legitimize our reason for moving forward, perhaps but I think it is far greater than ego or opinion. 

Originally this blog was going to be about how we can face fear and move into our naked truth, however it seems that I have a message to share about myself and how I relate to fear and TRUTH.  My naked vulnerable truth amidst all that I am, is that I am afraid that my writing and capacity to connect on an intuitive, empaths plain is not good enough and my life experiences to not merit even a hushed whisper.  I am afraid th
at what I bring to the universe will not even help one person even though I know the truth - that it's a self driven ego and critical brain that steps in the puddle and garner's supreme doubt and self adversity so that I can keep the status quo.

I admit that daily I struggle with my inner critic and intuitively know the answers to the battle in my mind that creates and yet here I am in my most vulnerable, naked undressed, down to the core of my soul moment making an admission of my truth and now that I face that FEAR, that dark., the thing that I choose to hold me back, it seem less daunting.

As cliché as the phrase sounds, FACE THE FEAR AND DO IT ANY WAY is, there is truth at least for me.  My truth is that I had to push myself to write my truth, so that I could see how I needed to dismiss, yes dismiss the fear.

The only mutual approbation I need, is with my self.  To love, approve, accept who I am and even how I think, feel and write.  What opinion, you the reader has, is really up to you. I do not have control your thoughts, ideology and principles.  I do have a huge responsibility to be true to myself, honest in what I do and respectful to those around me.  Those are my bench marks and I have no expectation for you to do like wise.  The only expectation is that you receive the message you need to hear in the moment and follow through with the intuitive action that comes such a message.

FEAR can leave us begging and pleading, however we need to change the language and framing associated with FEAR.  In my moment of reconciling myself to my fears, I realized that I have to kindly and compassionately love myself, the moment and the narrative I give to fear.  Realizing that you are anticipating a fear to follow after you make a commitment to yourself seems universally counter intuitive but as Stephen De Sede teaches, "anticipating creates a space of managing."

With anticipation that you will feel a sense of fear, the next step is to find gratitude for the moment.  By letting the universe know you are grateful for the moment to grow, and any other feelings you have toward gratitude, you instantly dissipate the vibrations related to that stronghold emotion.

As that sense initially starts to lessen it's grip, think for a moment, Who today, can I serve and be kind to?  Shift your thinking to someone else instead of self.  I have found as I think of how I can serve someone else in my moment of fear that those negative emotions do not suffocate me as much.  Often it is a simple as sending a heart felt text or call to a friend.

The final next level up is the language we speak to ourselves.  This morning as I showered, I knew the task I had before me.  I had to face my fear and write about it, just so I could get back into the writing saddle and achieve my goals that I had left by the wayside for 2 months believing that my writing was not enough.  My level up way of speaking to myself was to frame the language of the word fear in a positive segment.

That positive segment brought me joy, hope and a realization that I have life experiences, hope, a love of people to share with the universe and my goal is and always have been that if I touch  one (1) soul, then I am doing fantastic.  Not staggering statistics to lean into but real,  relevant and soul driven.  I am not here to get thousands of likes or unforgettable comments.  My mission and purpose is to write and share soulfully again to touch a soul, one moment, one person at a time.

Lets get to the core of the matter - Fear of ... failure, not being good enough, unlovable, unworthy.  We have all said those dogmatic, degradation and unfulfilling, dissatisfied statements to ourselves at some point in time.  It is the venom of self hate and loathing.  It is time to lean into an new perspective and language.   In that moment of fear we each have  a choice to be paralyzed by it or change the perspective, channel and narrative language

F - Freedom to choose

E - Expressions of

A- Adoration and Loving

R - Reflections of Self Love

Here is the positive affirmation that will let fear go: "I am free to choose the expression of adoration and loving reflections of self love."  While saying this statement out loud,  find a reflex point, or a chakra to tap this powerful expression of you.

Fear is the opposite of hope, belief and faith.  I have come to believe today that I have a mission and purpose to fulfil and it doesn't matter how many hear my message or if I write imperfectly or not in accordance to what society deems substantial.  What matters to me, with all my soul and heart is that I write what my intuition and heart feel.  Even greater, that it touches a life that indelibly inscribes a moment on their soul.

I stand unafraid willing to take the risk on myself to believe and move forward anticipating and expecting I will be afraid and that is okay.  To be an unsung extraordinary hero living an ordinary life, we have put aside our fear and find a way to work it out so that we don't leave ourselves behind on the platform of life.